Hope Again

Today is valentines day; a day to celebrate love in many different ways, more specifically with a significant other. As a single christian women, days like today can be sad, disappointing and all the other words and feelings that come to your mind. I am writing this for those who feel that way. Especially when you go on different platforms of social media and you see the people who are dating or married (maybe take the day to be off social media, if you feel tempted to compare where you are. Don’t let it steal the joy of His love for you). It feels gut wrenching to see as someone who is waiting patiently for their turn. It is more than okay to feel this way. I am going to say that again, it is more than okay to feel that way, it is normal. Most people will probably say the opposite. We were not made to be alone, we all were called to community and ultimately marriage. As someone who has many failed relationships, love seems like a far off land. The lie I have fallen for the most is that since I have never gotten it right, it is just not in God’s plan for me to have it. I still fall for it. Especially on days like today. This is a continual deconstruction that God has been doing in my heart, digging deep and taking out the roots of these lies. This is why healing is so important, singleness is the perfect place for this. This is not to say that you should not be content in your singleness. I think we talk so much about being content in singleness that feeling any little ounce of sadness is a sin. This is a lie that brings shame. Jesus does not condemn us for this. Your disappointment is a place for Jesus to show you His goodness even in your yearning and longing. There is no eloquent words or phrases to be said about being in this season. And that is the beauty of it. It is all about your perspective. By the mercy and the goodness of God I get to heal as much as I can right now for my future spouse and kids. I get to let Jesus root my identity in Him more than ever. I get to serve my church and community in love, learning what it means to love the way Christ did , so I can do the same in marriage. There is love all around you. Appreciate the love around you first. His banner over you is love. There really is no greater love than His. Maybe my prayer for myself and you all is that today and we would have a supernatural understanding of this love. Sometimes that is what we need. Not a significant other but, a greater revelation of His love of us.

Meditate on these verses:

“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:38-39‬)

“so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.” (Ephesians‬ ‭3:17-19)

“He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love.” (‭‭Song of Solomon‬ ‭2:4‬)

“O my dove, in the clefts of the rock, in the crannies of the cliff, let me see your face, let me hear your voice, for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely.” (Song of Solomon‬ ‭2:14‬).

“My beloved is mine, and I am his”. (Song of Solomon‬ ‭2:16‬)

“You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.”(Song of Solomon‬ ‭4:7)

“You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride; you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace. How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much better is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!” (Song of Solomon‬ ‭4:9-10‬)

“Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death, jealousy is fierce as the grave. Its flashes are flashes of fire, the very flame of the Lord. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man offered for love all the wealth of his house, he would be utterly despised.” (Song of Solomon‬ ‭8:6-7‬)